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My sister uses Ok Cupid so that men know she’s a 5’2 nudist with a penchant for folk songs.
If men who are total assholes about nudism and folk songs see her profile proclaiming this both so boldly and so clearly: they don’t message her.
Maybe you’ve got circles under your eyes so black you look like you just came from a football game–time to show your date just how sexy you can look in sunglasses. There are millions of things you can do for your partner–from helping them have better relationships with their family and friends, to teaching them about having career goals or handling money and investing, to being a solid parenting partner or emotional caregiver. You will probably end up puking in the back seat of his car.
You’re not the only one with problems, so start looking for places where you can apply yourself as the solution. Don’t pretend like you’re cool, and then turn around and dry heave into your handbag (I have mastered this by the way.) Don’t agree to go to a rock concert when you have a migraine and don’t agree to eat hibachi when you’re on an all-liquid diet. Better to out yourself and your condition early and avoid the consequences.
Understand that their first reaction probably will be “what the fuck? People can sense your uneasiness about your disease.You’re still going to be just about as self-conscious as any other person is on a first date, so remember to play up your best assets. They put up with it all and know they won’t ever get as much PHYSICAL effort in return.Maybe you’ve packed on a few prednisone pounds–it’s a great time to pull out the tight skirts to show that you no longer have a white-girl butt. But that doesn’t mean you can’t put in effort elsewhere. These might not be the best first date activities for you if you have a chronic illness. You will probably end the night in excruciating pain.You can’t pretend forever–and Jesus, why would you want to??? I mean whoever heard of someone sneaking in a stash of immodium in their bra to the prom?
” So allow them the courtesy of saying it (to themselves) in the privacy of their own bedroom while staring at their laptop. Feel comforted in the fact that you can’t see their hands flittering over the keyboard trying to come up with a supportive/appropriate/charming response. If you haven’t come to terms with it yet and are still in a phase of mourning your old life–you probably aren’t ready to date anyway.
And let them have the ability to untangle this information before you sit down to your first date. You’ve got to love yourself–with or without the disease, if you’re going to expect someone new in your life to do the same. –but slamming your fist down on the table every time you decree a new amendment on how you will be treated as a partner is not going to win you any suitors. Remember that relationships are a two way street and you’ve got be willing to put out just as much as you need to take in.