The key is to be relaxed and stop looking for her approval.
Guys looking for approval will be more forward and aggressive when approaching women.
Your greatest challenge to break her defenses is her past experiences. You can break through these defenses by not provoking this automatic reaction in the first place. You approach a woman that really interests you from across a room and the moment you use your best line or introduce yourself, she politely smiles and walks away with all her friends. Well, she saw you coming and already had her defenses up even before you got near her.Why does this happen and how do you break through her defenses so that you can get a date? Every body has dating scars and there are a lot of people who can be classified as the walking wounded looking to be rescued.In this modern day, women are going to be extra careful when meeting strange men for fear of violence, stalking, and any terrible things you have heard in the news.
But to get past her defenses, you can relieve her of her fears by just being yourself with no apparent agenda, and doing what you do because you want to do it. So in talking to girls, you can act like you do not really care what she thinks of you and that you have the confidence of knowing whom you are and what you are about.
The minute you try to impress a woman to get her approval you will quickly join the ranks of the walking wounded in love and dating.